The Dark Road of Hidden Depression {Praising God When Life Hurts}

Praising God When Life Hurts

Hi Friends,

As we continue our Praising God When Life Hurts series, I am happy to welcome Chelsey Coffey to the blog. Chelsey’s  desire is to help women grow through Christ’s love. Her writing is a refection of the hope and encouragement that can be found in Christ alone. Below, Chelsey is going to share about her personal struggle with depression and how praising God through those dark moments brings victory.

 

Many of those who know me are surprised when I tell them that the biggest struggle I face on a consistent basis is one with myself. I guess I hide it well. Since I was a young girl, I have suffered from depression. And to be completely honest, it has never really made sense to me. Doctors say it’s a chemical imbalance, some people say it’s all in my head. Regardless, the pain I feel is completely real.

For me, it goes in spurts. There are times where I am fine for months and months. And then there are the times where my husband or my mom have sat with me, watching me cry, asking me what is wrong… most of the time I just don’t know. I feel guilty for feeling the way I do because I am so incredibly blessed. God has given me so much love and so much beauty in my life – what right do I have to be sad when others are physically suffering all over this world?

But for whatever reason, the sadness takes over. Not forever, but just long enough to throw me off and to hurt, a lot. And then the shame comes – a leader in ministry like myself should not suffer from depression. I know my God is stronger than this. I know that I shouldn’t let it get the better of me.

Some days, I just feel hopeless.

Have you ever suffered from depression? If not, maybe a loved one of yours has. It is more common than we may think and even widespread in our local church. But I want to tell you this truth – in the midst of the hopeless feeling, God still loves you. He is right there with you and He won’t give up on you. 1 Peter 5:7 says, “Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.” And suffering from depression doesn’t make you any less of a Christian.

I don’t know why depression plagues some of us, but we live in a fallen world and it does exist. The most important thing we can do in the midst of this time of deep sadness, it to cling to God. Stay close to Him in prayer and His word. We must surround ourselves with other believers who are there to help lift us up and comfort us. Because if instead of staying close to God and we fall away, the deeper and darker that hole will get. And it’s then Satan gets foothold to separate us from our Father.

I am so thankful that our God is a God of hope and His purpose is always good. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “‘For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.’”

When I remember God’s promises to me, the tears eventually dry and the sun starts to peak through my dark sky. In life there are high points and low points, and they are both only temporary – but we always have the hope in Jesus Christ.

Having a wonderful God who loves us – so much He sent His son to die for us so He could be with us forever is amazing hope we can cling on to. So during this time, praise God. For He has never left you or forsaken you. He loves you.

So even when it hurts, I’ll always praise my wonderful Father in heaven.

“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” Romans 12:12.


Chelsey Coffey  Chelsey Coffey is a Christ-follower, writer, wife and mother. She and her husband are currently in the beginning stages of planting a church. She writes about faith and spiritual growth at her blog: chelseycoffey.com. You can also connect with her on Facebook  and Twitter

14 thoughts on “The Dark Road of Hidden Depression {Praising God When Life Hurts}

  1. Precious, honest, vulnerable post. Thank you for speaking out about what so many of us go through. I hear and feel every bit of that, and I know other Christian women who do, too. I am so grateful when He brings the sun back out… <3

  2. It’s so good to hear authenticity! So many hide behind their masks and don’t share the brokenness that they feel. God’s message can be so much more evident when it’s peppered with our mess.
    Thank you for this post!
    There is always hope in the cross!
    Julie

    • So true, Julie. We can be so scared to share our hurt with others, and yet, when we do healing often takes place in our lives, as well as the lives of those hearing our story. Thank you for stopping by today! Blessings to you.

  3. I’ve suffered with mild bouts of depression from time to time, but I have a sibling and a daughter who both have suffered severely with it. 🙁 Depression is definitely a hard, hard illness. Like you said, I’m so grateful that we can always have hope, even when it seems to be hiding behind the clouds. God is always with us! Thanks for sharing, Chelsey.

  4. So happy to see Chelsey here. She’s a light to so many. Thank you for your honesty and your open heart, Chelsey. God bless you all this week, my friends. Thank you for linking this up to Open Mic Monday at Cisneros Cafe. xxx

    • Chelsey, thank you a million times over for being will to share your time and talent with us! Your story is touching many. Thank you for opening up and allowing others to see into your hurt. You are a blessing indeed! Love you, sweet friend!

  5. “Our God is a God of hope and His purpose is always good.” Those are thoughts I put on repeat when worry and anxiety creep in. So, so glad for a God that is present and who draws near when we invite Him into our hurt and heartache. Love your honest heart and your sweet encouragement today, Chelsey. And thank you Leigh for bring it to us.

  6. My best friend has struggled mightily with depression for 3 years. It’s hard to know how to help her since especially in the Christian world, seeking help can be such a stigma with people assuming that she has little faith and trust in God or she could just ‘get over it.’ I have tried very hard to be the voice of encouragement and reminding her that clinical depression can be treated and is not ‘her fault.’ Thank you for your honest story to remind those who don’t suffer like this to be compassionate and not judgmental of those who do.

  7. I, too, suffer from depression and, in fact, am on medication. Sadly, there is such a stigma against mental illnesses in the Christian community. We used to attend a church where they preached often (3 times a month) that there is “no such thing as mental illness, that it’s just sin in the life of a believer and that to be on medication for it is sin.” As a result of this attitude, we try to hide our illness, and we fail to get the help we need.

    Thank you for sharing your story,
    Patti @ Embracing Home

  8. Lori Schumaker of Seaching for Moments says:

    Leigh and Chelsey,
    Depression is real and it’s very difficult. Thank you so much for sharing authentically and for sharing the hope that is found in opening our hearts to Jesus. He loves us, messes and all. And He walks with us through those dark times. I pray this post reaches many and gives them hope and lets them know they are not alone.

    Thank you so much for sharing this with us at Monday’s #MomentsofHope! I am honored to have your words in that space!

    Blessings and smiles,
    Lori

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