Jump Start Your Mentoring Conversation

questions to jump startyour mentoring conversation

Today, we continue our three-part series on investing in others. You may have heard of this type of investment referred to as discipleship or mentoring. All three terms point to the same idea. What’s most important is that we are making an intentional effort to sow into someone else’s life for the purpose of helping them mature in Christ.

As I read through your comments last week, “being present” was a common theme. Many of you agreed with the importance of being present. However, out of all the P’s we discussed, being present, can also be the most intimidating. I’ve heard it said before, “what if they ask a question I can’t answer.” If that happens, I believe there is great value in showing that you don’t know. As mentors we are called to be real rather than perfect, and our mentees will appreciate our honesty.

When asked a question that I haven’t known the answer to the past, I’ve said something similar to, “I don’t know, but let’s find the answer together.” Or, “I’m not sure, but I will find out and let you.”  Every time I’ve responded like this, I’ve been met with a sense of respect rather than disappointment.

Being present is the ground where the fruit of our investment will grow. As you and I spend time with our mentees, here are five questions to jump start our conversations:

  1. How are you?
  2. What has been the high/low of your day?
  3. What is your story?
  4. How is God working in your life right now?
  5. How can I pray for you?

As you and I pay attention to the life of our mentees we will be able to ask more thoughtful questions. Our time in conversation will enable them to see how much we value their life; accountability will grow, and best of all, we will both mature in our walk with God.  Yes, this journey may be a little time-consuming and perhaps intimidating, but I assure you it is well worth it for the sake of our future generation and God’s Kingdom!

After all, Jesus said, “Therefore, go and make disciples of all the nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father and the Son and the Holy Spirit. Teach these new disciples to obey all the commands I have given you. And be sure of this: I am with you always, even to the end of the age.” Matthew 28:19-20

Let’s do this, friends!!

May I pray for you? If you’re in a mentoring relationship or you would like to become more involved in mentoring leave a comment below, and I’ll add you to my prayer list. Have a blessed weekend, friends!

Linking this post up with the beautiful community of writers at Grace & Truth.

14 thoughts on “Jump Start Your Mentoring Conversation

  1. Margaret Green says:

    Hi Leigh Ellen, thank you so much for this encouraging reminder. I am a new mentor to 5 beautiful woman at our church. Our mentoring group has only meet a couple of times and I already see God’s hand moving. I thank God for opening this door and for the calling on my life and Lord knows I need His help. This is new to me so your prayers for my group & I would be appreciated! 💜

    • Margaret, how blessed these girls are to have you in their lives. Thank you for giving from your heart to make a difference in their lives and in God’s Kingdom!

      Heavenly Father, thank you for leading Margaret to this place of leadership with these ladies. Thank you for her heart and her willingness to give of her time as an investment into the lives of these sweet girls. Abba, I pray you would lead Margaret in the days ahead. I pray for your spirit and wisdom to be tangible for her as she leans into you and trusts in your plan. I pray you fill their meeting times with your presence and bring growth and transformation into the life of each lady. In Jesus Name, Amen.

      Margaret, I will continue to pray for you. Thank you for stopping by today and sharing your heart! Blessings to you, friend!

  2. I am blessed to have found you today at Dawn’s linkup. I am in a season of life with the gift of extra time and have desired for a long time to engage in a mentoring situation. One that I am leading someone forward and one that has someone leading me. I would love your prayers for both of those situations. Your five questions are a great place to start and I appreciate your heart for mentoring.

    • Mary, what a blessing it is to have you here today. I am glad God allowed our paths to cross. Just reading your words, “I am in a season of life with the gift of extra time and have desired for a long time to engage in a mentoring situation” makes me smile more than I can express here on the blog. Although we have never met, I can sense your heart, and I am certain there is someone out there who is going to greatly benefit from your investment!

      Heavenly Father, thank you for Mary and her desire to invest in someone’s life. Father, I pray for you to set up a divine connection for Mary where she is able to sow her wisdom and Your Word into the life of a hungry soul. I pray you lead her and give her the necessary confidence to step out and trust your plan. In Jesus Name, Amen.

      Mary, thank you for stopping by. I don’t believe it was by accident that God brought us together today. I will continue to pray for you and when you find your person, I would love to hear about it! Big blessings to you, sister!

  3. Wise words Leigh Ellen! I love the questions and I learned a long time ago, I don’t have all the answers. It pays to be honest and search for the answers together. Keep on writing sista! Have a blessed week!

  4. Sweet Kelsey! How love you and thank God for you and your encouragement! You make me smile!

    Heavenly Father, thank you for blessing my life with the gift of Kelsey! I pray you bless her indeed this week. I pray you afford her wisdom and guidance in the areas she holds closest to her heart. May she feel you and experience you in a unique way this week. In Jesus Name. Amen.

    Love You, Kelsey!

  5. What great questions! It’s been a while since I was in a true mentoring situation, although I suspect there are opportunities right in front of me that I’ve missed. Appreciate the encouragement to look more closely. Thanks for sharing at Testimony Tuesday!

  6. Great questions, Leigh! It’s amazing how many people have never had the opportunity to share their story – or had some invest in hearing it. It’s a beautiful and surprising experience to get to hear the backstory behind the lives in front of us. Great post – and glad you little guy is on the mend.

  7. Developing these kinds of relationships is so important, and it’s so rare in these busy days! We Christ-following women need this encouragement! Thank you for sharing it at Grace & Truth.
    I’d love to feature this at A Divine Encounter on Friday, but the rules require a featured post to link back to the blogs of one of the hostesses. It’s very possible that I missed your link back! If that’s the case, or if you’d like to add one in order to be featured, please let me know. Thank you again!

  8. Being present is not always an easy thing to do in our very busy society, but I wonder if it is one of the key things that will bring us back to being relational and valuing those relationships. Being present means we are attentive to detail and investing means we put some of ourselves into that person, or event.
    Thanks for linking this up at #GraceMoments!

  9. Awesome. I love that you were so honest in taking a short break. I’m absent this week from morning sickness, but am getting over the hump. Thanks so much for posting this Open Mic Monday at Cisneros Cafe. I’m hoping to return this Monday. These are great questions. I hope everyone is feeling better and that you enjoyed your trip. Hugs.

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